Women and Men cheat, this we know. Forget the backdoor statistics, forget the blame game, generalizations of who cheats more or less, it does not matter when it comes to your individual experience. Instead, let us de-mystify this persuasive ideology that cheaters/offenders want and need you to believe. This social infraction that is leading many to believe a lie that hinders us from moving forward and finding peace in our lives. This huge misconception of Love and God and Man (Human)! It’s beyond absurd! They, the offenders, want you to believe YOU SHOULD STAY WITH THEM AFTER THEY CHEAT! They will go so far as to create Meme’s, movies, poems, video explanations, Facebook status’s, viral tweets, blame you for not doing x,y, z and more that have you believing YOU’RE THE ONE IN THE WRONG, but Im here to wake yo’ ass up!
1. Cheating Is NOT A Mistake:
– Finding: A Woman or a Man must search and find to cheat before they do it! So, while you’re sitting next to Him while watching Scandal and he’s online, or She’s sitting next to you online while you’re watching the game, your mate is or has already searched for his/her cheatee! And for those of you reading this thinking; “but what about….”, oh what about the club, or job lay over, “happenstance”? Its still a decision in finding, or having found someone by that someone introducing themselves to you, or you introducing yourself to them, there is a mental, and physical search that happens in the midst of a relationship of secrets that occur within someone before they even find a person to cheat with. Cheaters search to cheat, this alone is not a damn mistake, how can you mistakenly search, on Craigslist perhaps, and find someone to cheat with?! You can’t, its about decisions…
– Deciding: A Woman or a Man must decide to cheat before they do it! Shocking right? So, while you’re cooking Him dinner, or Washing her car your mate is or has already decided to cheat! Every single day, of every single second Human beings choose yes or no, right or left, up or down, we make decisions every single second. While typing this article I’ve decided several times to pick up, stir, drink, and dip this green tea into my red tea cup, re-read this post to make sure it’s right…The point is, we decide every course of action we take, even if there is a gun put to our head, we decide, its powerful, our ability to make decisions. And no, I am by no means comparing some tempting vagina or penis to having a gun put to your head, but many would want you to believe they HAD NO CHOICE in both situations.
When in reality, they do, you do, we do have a choice, and not just one, but many. When it comes to cheating while you are deciding and texting to meet, hop in the shower screaming “baby where’s the soap”, drying off, putting on your “good clothes”, hopping in your car driving and stopped by 12 red lights before getting there, parking the car, opening the door, walking to the cheating destination, meeting your cheatee who probably has no idea you’re cheating, peeling off clothes, kissing, sucking, licking, touching, moaning, inserting, biting, grabbing…you get the point, all of those actions are decisions you’re making, none of which are the decision to STOP and NOT CHEAT. Most of the decisions made are to lie…
– Lying: “Baby I’m just gone sleep all day today on my day off you have a good day at work…” meanwhile the cheater is already planning the cheating day. After they’ve done their dirt, and even before they’ve started, they’ve lied. They’ve lied so much that the lies they told are now the foundation of the Lie-House they’ve started to build and each addition is a lie added to complete this house. They’ve lied so much that the house is complete with three floors, four bathrooms, six bedrooms, forty windows, and the furniture is about to be delivered, and when the furniture comes, oh trust me, you’re dealing with someone disgusting because they plan on living in that House Of Lies they’ve just built and relaxing there. Its foul!
2. Life On Earth Is Too Short:
3. There’s Someone(s) For YOU:
4. You Will Help Them Grow:
5. You Are Deserving Of A Quality Relationship:
All in all you should leave when they cheat because you are deserving of a quality relationship, and you will help your cheater grow, there is someone(s) for you so never feel bogged down by one because life is too short on Earth and cheating is NEVER a mistake. Its about RESPECTING YOURSELF enough to treat yourself how God intended you to be treated...I know some of you are wondering; “but what about if you’re married?” Even in marriage and till death do us part, for better or for worse shouldn’t keep you there. While divorce may not be on the table maybe leaving to figure yourself out, find yourself and vice versa, would certainly help your marriage vs staying together before you’re ready. You are the boss of your marriage and how it should go, I know many married people who’ve taken time apart and reconnected after “working it out”, but the same does not apply for those who believe in divorce and for those who are not married.
LEAVE! LEAVE! LEAVE! LEAVE! LEAVE! You cannot change a person and change their course of actions and thinking by telling them you love them, or being in a relationship with them. We are who we are when you meet us, which means if you marry or get into a relationship with someone who cheats, its because they have that cheater spirit before you got with them and that doesn’t change automatically just because of “I Do” or “I love You” or “We are going steady” ha! Who says its your job to wait for the other to mature and decide to be with just you? Who says?! You think God wants that?! For you to be unhappy, questioning every move, wondering, feeling yucky when kissing or trying to have sex with your partner lying to yourself hoping it will one day go away? I Don’t…for the reasons above.
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